October 21, 2016
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Teen: Child Development (cont.)

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How can parents help their teen deal with bullying?

Bullying is one of the biggest challenges that teens are facing. Unfortunately, many teens are forced to deal with bullying while their parents and teachers are unaware on the specific nature and severity of the problem in their school. Data from 2010 indicate that approximately 160,000 students miss school each day as a result of being bullied or fear of being bullied. School districts and administrators have often adopted a "zero tolerance" approach to bullying. However, progressively more frequent cases of "cyber bullying" using social media are replacing the overt verbal threat and/or physical assault that is the more traditional experience in past years. Research indicates that in 2010 approximately 2.7 million students were the victims of approximately 2.1 bullying contemporaries. That means that about 282,000 high school students are attacked each month. Unfortunately, those being bullied may react in two ways to repeated bullying. Some who have been the victims of bullying respond by adopting the policy of "the best defense is a strong offense" and become a bully themselves. Other teens see no alternative but suicide. Nationally, suicide is the number three cause of death for adolescents (behind automobile accidents and homicide).

Several areas must be addressed to prevent bullying.

  1. Policies: A clear definition is necessary. This will allow easy recognition and thus promote a quick assessment and resolution of this problem. Specific types (verbal, physical, cyber, sexual or religious orientation, etc.) should be detailed. Similarly, frustrating events that are not bullying should be discussed (for example, being chosen last for sporting games due to poor ability).
  2. Consequences: Fair, immediate, and appropriate consequences should be detailed. Many states have statutory penalties for those convicted of such offences.
  3. Family education: Parents should be expected to help their children recognize and report bullying. They are responsible for supporting their child's concerns. If their child is the bully, they have the responsibility to address this issue with gravity and obtain counseling for their child.

Medically reviewed by Margaret Walsh, MD; American Board of Pediatrics


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Last Editorial Review: 10/21/2014

Source: MedicineNet.com

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