Great Sex Tip 3: Don't Compare Your Sex Life With Porn
"Not everything men know about sex was learned from pornography. But a lot of it they did. And that can be a problem. Populated as it is by flawlessly formed women and men with etched abs and equine endowments, adult entertainment makes many guys wonder: What am I doing wrong? Or, more to the point: What's wrong with me?
'One of the most destructive myths of porn is that it convinces so many guys that they're too small,' Castleman says. 'They forget that pornography is self-selecting...These are not average men. They're the extreme end of the scale.'
Other fictions include the idea that women are always primed and ready; that the same moves work on every partner; that satisfying sex always culminates in orgasm.
There are positives to porn -- it can, for example, inspire us to greater sexual exploration. 'As long as you're aware that it's not reality,' Castleman says. 'It's like watching a car chase in an action movie. It's exciting. It's entertaining. But everyone knows it's not the way to drive.'" *